is showing the mirror a wrong method?

so there is nothing i can do in these fights, am i the reason, for any of these. i was annoyed this afternoon becos i was watching tv and this fellow has the speaker loud on. yes i did it one day because this fellow i was sure was sitting in that hall and creating negativity in the main living hall  while am struggling here with work it was double pressure so the tv was so loud i decided i shall do the same thing he's doing and he got upset for showing him the mirror. and he has got the opportunity throwing dirty shit again and again whenever the situation gets tough for him releasing his inner shit at us. and the guy with his head phones on his ear which by the way is another story, i got him his favorite songs and he started raping those songs playing them loud and repeatedly i don't know for the nth time in the main hall. ended up regretting why i did that favor. so i complained or made my unpleasant reaction clear a lot of times either directly or through mother, to mom and asked him to use his headphones  again he did that as a means to letting go of his frustrations at work, which is fine if that helps you but then you are not satisfied and still end up boozing.and yesterday i was at peace silently working, with the same headphones he was now madly beating the chair for some song without any rhythm totally jarring almost in an inebriated condition absolutely rapes your immediate environment am watching helplessly i dont know what to do, this is like too small an issue that i don't want to pick up a fight on. my mother also probably felt the same but guess what, that is where these fellows create the problem, and stay in smaller issues stuck up inside their gutter brain chemicals. now if india would have gone and attacked pakistan for an issue like a terrorist entering their zone imagine what happens, its war. its no different here. best attitude seemed like tolerance. but tolerance is no big virtue that should be scrupulously followed. every now and then you show the mirror and these guys a storm is stirred up and asshole he shows it on my weak mother, poor gomathy. so if had talked to him directly letting him know a piece of mind would that have been a better solution. it's been a long time since i have had any meaningful coversation with this a.hole. am struggling with my own issues,didn't want double the trouble, so cant say if directly dealing with this fellow would have been any different, may it would lead to more of his shitty ego bruised. But the woman in his life my mom pays the price for not being strong and dynamic. if she had been she would have left him long time back. i cant help her. she has chosen her destiny. it is she and her gods.The situation is imbalance coupled with king ego and revenge and frustration and liquor that is too much for my mother to handle but am sure it is not tough for d'mom .